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A bit of bad news..
by billstelling
09 Nov 2015 14:06

I have been working on a dark mobile as I have found the time but I have to back burner it for a bit as I get though a family crisis.

After being cancer free for a year, my wife got hit with the docs wanting to do a biopsy after her last set of scans. So things have been a bit crazy around here the past week to say the least.. On top of that, we are having to short sell our house because we were not able to stay up with the mortgage this year due to all the co-pays and other expenses that have wiped us out financially.

I will get back to it when I can but I am not sure when I will be able to get it finished. I have been forced to put all of my coding work on hold as I figure out what we can do and were we are going to move. Not to sure what to do as we are pretty much broke..

I also want to apologize over my recent conduct on the site.. All of this has made me a bit short tempered and I realize now that It has had an effect on how I have been conducting myself as of late.

ForceHSS 09 Nov 2015 15:17

Sorry to hear that bring the Lord into your life and you will find all will be ok

MarkFL 09 Nov 2015 15:33

I hope the biopsy turns out to be benign and that things make a turn for the better for you and your family. It is quite understandable that coding projects have to take a back seat during this time as you need to focus your energy on more important things. Stay strong my friend!

billstelling 09 Nov 2015 16:21

Just got the call from the scheduler for Friday at 11. I found it interesting that they changed the ct assisted biopsy to ultrasound. The tech that is, the doc ordered the ct one.. The guy I talked to said it is much more accurate than ct were you have to constantly leave the patient and go look at the screen to see placement. He said it is really easy to go past were you want to be doing a ct assisted biopsy.

Being that she has the hormone based form of breast cancer(triple positive), and on permanent hormone therapy to block it, we were hoping that it was all down to maintenance now, all be it for the rest of her life. So this came as a bit of a surprise..

She troopered through chemo as well and refused to quite working due to the bills involved and all. She was stage 4 but the oncologist was able to clear it from her system with the chemo and hormone injection..

We are fairly confident that it is benign but considering it's a lymph-node we are concerned.. It had spread to some of them and was on her rids as well as a spot in her liver but the treatments had killed it all off within 8 months and with the permanent hormone shots to block it every month we were, are, very confident it would not be an issue again so soon. Well, not that it ever ended.. She is still on the same schedule that she was when the chemo started, only now it's just the hormone stuff that they hook up to the port when she goes in.

I had a pretty good position and pay was good for me a year ago and we were able to stay on top of things, but the owner of the company and I had got into a little row over how the company was being run and he let me go.. A few months later it all pretty much collapsed on him.. I guess he should have listened and headed my warnings..

I was able to get a lower paying job pretty quick but the damage was done and it was all down hill from there as we could not stay on top of things at that point as the medical bills had to come first.. I'm not in debt other than some of the medical stuff as I was able to take care of any outstanding dept before it got bad as well as shed all but the necessities.

Now I'm just fffft.. What do we do now?? It really sucks loosing your house after being in it for 15 years.. Oh, to top all this off, a couple weeks ago some drunk hit my parked car in the wee hours of the morning and totaled it. Live really sucks sometimes..

I don't even know why I am posting all this here. I guess I just needed to vent in some fashion.

Dave 09 Nov 2015 16:31

Sorry to hear that, I wish you all the best in real life.

Cancer really sucks, I lost my father (blood cancer) to it when I was 14 years old and my grandfather (colon cancer) 3 years later.
Luckily the insurance in The Netherlands covered all of the treatments and other expenses.

ForceHSS 09 Nov 2015 20:53

Lost my dad 10 years ago to lung cancer I hope it all goes well for you pray to the Lord each day he is always there for you and I hope you ask for salvation soon and don't leave it too late as many do

Lynne 09 Nov 2015 21:39

I'm so sorry to hear all that you are having to go through right now. My thoughts are with you and your family.

RichieBoy67 11 Nov 2015 00:47

I hope everything turns out ok for you and yours. Hang in there my friend.

billstelling 11 Nov 2015 05:05

Well, we will know what's up in a couple days. After days of talking it out she seems to be in a better way for the moment.. I still think/hope it's just from that node having problems before from an infection a few years back, but the fact it was one that the cancer had spread to as well it is troublesome.

Thanks for all the encouraging words from you all.. It means a lot. really..

DemOnstar 11 Nov 2015 07:52

Sorry to hear your story old boy, I remember when I went through a situation very similar.
I lost the entire family and the house 8 years ago. .
I am still homeless now and unemployed. . .
Guess we just have to keep going. . .

billstelling 11 Nov 2015 13:18

Interesting you mention loosing your house and all. We are in the process of selling our house over all of this. Short sale.. I have an investment group coming out Monday to talk and take video for the moneymen.

I had started to remodel our house shortly before she got the news about having breast cancer and Is the reason for bringing in an investor to take over the finance of the house as it is finished and sold. We will loose about half of what we could have gotten doing on our own but by falling behind on the mortgage we are out of options.

Even with great insurance the bills piled up..

ndoktoruser 11 Nov 2015 14:36

What a sad story! :(

I wish strength and all the best for your and your family.

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